Uh, if I wasn't very articulate (damn you LJ and your paid-only ability to edit posts!) I guess, what I was trying to say, is that while 'RL-society' might be expecting Toni to be submissive, it *looks like* that fandom expects her NOT to be. As in, you know, judging going on, however sub-consciously or non-explicitly, for making that 'not-approved-by-this-specific-circle/society' choice. Idk, it just makes me feel weird. *shrug*
Re: The discomfort is a power dynamics thing