Sorry, but the more I see this question posed in the fandoms I dabble in, the less it makes sense to me. As long as you're getting fanfic with the dynamics you prefer, what do you care what anyone else thinks?

You see enough "I like this, and I have a hard time understanding why anyone would prefer anything but" musings, and the more it seems to be subtle pressure on authors, artists, and readers who might disagree to rethink their personal preferences. Which is uncool. (And in at least one fandom, I've seen it absolutely stated upfront and directly by a highly influential BNF. VERY uncool.)