This! I really don't like (in any fandom) when men are feminized. That's not to say they can't be emotional and have feelings etc, (and god knows I love virgin!Steve), but he's still a big, strong dude that PUNCHED HITLER! ;) I don't need him weeping over the fact that he'll never be able to give birth.

And hell, even effeminate guys are STIL GUYS. I have no problem with women, but like you said, I'll read het or femmslash if I want to read about chicks.