Question for a new member and lover of this pair

[darkflametailz.livejournal.com]

Ok, so I have just started to get into the Steve/Tony pairing and I can't help but wonder the more I read and look at fanfics/fanart.

Who do you like best as the bottom in the relationship? Steve or Tony and WHY!? (if you like them both as top/bottom, then ignore this k?) :) or give me your thoughts-I don't care.

Personally I love Tony as a bottom because well I guess because Steve makes one awesome hot top. lol and I have a thing for Tony being hurt or 'powered over' or really because Tony is in fact a playboy and even if not hinted could be one to be with both genders and he could really just make Steve forget all his troubles with women.    

Anyways! Your thoughts-GO! 




And please know stereotypes in my opinion should NOT involve fandoms- know they can't really be separated- (blame dumb people in the world)- but to me they kinda can. I mean really it depends on the story.   

Comments

[charcoalcat.livejournal.com]

Hey, hi, I'm also new to this pairing. Actually, I'm pretty new to the entire fandom. Which is to say, aside from some accumulated trivia, I'm only familiar with the movie-verse characterization of these guys so bear that in mind.

Whether or not I like a relationship dynamic depends largely on the author and whether or not they abuse stereotypes. I like slash because I like men. If I want to read about sexy times with ladies, there is plenty of het or fem-slash fic available. So any time an author starts to "feminize" part of a slash relationship, outside of specific kinks/tropes/fetishes, I lose interest. I I very much dislike reading stories where Steve is cast as so painfully bedroom shy and virginal, his sensibilities so delicate, that he needs Tony to help him find his penis. I dislike either of them acting like the leading lady in a Harlequin romance or an overly tragic teenage girl. If Top/Bottom designation results in that sort of thing, I go read something else.

That being said, aesthetically speaking, I like Steve on top for the most part. A case can be made for the 'experienced older man(Tony)/eager virgin(Steve)' dynamic but that's sort of a background thing for me, not a basis for particular positions other than "All of the above, please". Also, I'm pretty sure I have a trust kink. No matter who you are, you have to have a huge amount of trust to put yourself at the physical mercy of a person who could kill you with their bare hands without hardly trying. If you've been through the sorts of mental, emotional and physical betrayals Tony has? I don't think Tony even trust himself most of the time so letting Steve take the driver seat is hawt to me. Although Tony would still probably be a relentless backseat driver, so to speak. Since they're both proud, pig-headed stubborn and often recklessly brave though, I can't see them limiting their intimacy to one seating option, they'd have to switch it up once in awhile. Hehe, now I have their relationship scrolling through my head as a long distance road trip. Fun times.

[tripperfunster.livejournal.com]

This! I really don't like (in any fandom) when men are feminized. That's not to say they can't be emotional and have feelings etc, (and god knows I love virgin!Steve), but he's still a big, strong dude that PUNCHED HITLER! ;) I don't need him weeping over the fact that he'll never be able to give birth.

And hell, even effeminate guys are STIL GUYS. I have no problem with women, but like you said, I'll read het or femmslash if I want to read about chicks.